Friendships! Basically people with similar backgrounds, interests, ideas, and characteristics tend to befriend one another. I mean just look at your friend circles. Even if you’re a person that’s friendly with everyone the people that you hang out probably like to do the same things you do. Even the friend you have the least common things with, you still get along and hang out because you probably some similarities. Even if it may not be shared interests it may be shared or similar experiences. For example, two people may become friends because they both endure the same trauma like being teased as a child or growing up in poverty or even something like growing up with helicopter parents. Whatever it is something brought you together and now here you are walking through life and creating new experiences together.
The friends you keep are extremely important. Usually your friends are the ones you turn to when you’re dealing with certain issues, trying to make life decisions or just need a night of fun and relaxations. Your friends are the ones that help you deal with stress, make those decisions, provide inspiration/motivation, keep you strong and make this thing call life a little easier. The company you keep is vital to your success. I have three close friend groups – two made up of close friends from college and the third, my cousins. And before you ask yes, you can be friends with your family, lol. My circle honestly motivates me and keeps me going. I do have some outliers – you know, friends outside these groups that I value as well that truly keep me going. I am also an extreme extravert so I meet and connect with people all the time! As I began to take my walk with Christ a step further I started to feel a desire for more Christian/godly friendships as well. Don’t get me wrong, I love and cherish my circle and wouldn’t trade them for the world, well most days anyway, Ha-ha! But I realized that some of my interest began to change and I needed people who was experiencing the same things or understood what I was going through, trying to let go of the old me and walk in the things of God, to kind of help me along. Even in my current friendship circles I have friends of faith and I share my love for God with everyone– just ask them! The Word of God also says “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend” Proverbs 27:17. I decided to expand my circle to include more friends of faith.
Just as regular friendships, Christian friendships are developed because of a common interested, Christ! The Bible says “Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near” Hebrews 10:24-25. Godly friendships should encourage you in your walk and your relationship with Christ. God wants us to encourage each other in well doing. These type of friendships are vital to our growth and endurance. I have had times when I faced life’s struggles; bad break ups, sickness, joblessness, etc. and I thank God for friends that prayed me through when I couldn’t form the words in my own mouth. Friends that encouraged me to not lose hope and to continue to trust God as He is faithful. This type of friendship helps you keep your focus more on God rather than the circumstances you are dealing with. It also helps to know that as you try to leave certain old ways behind like gossip, drunkenness, wild parties, slander, fornication, etc., that you are in the struggle alone, because the struggle is real! It’s easy to revert back to the things that you were used to doing but as iron sharpens iron your friendship can help keep you accountable and on the right track.
Friendships overall all are important. It’s more than just having someone to go to brunch or the movies with. It’s about having people around you that would go to bat for you. That will stand in your corner and encourage you. That will root for you and support you through life. Also, help you to evaluate the type of friend/person you are. Our friendships can have a positive or negative affect on us. If you have friends that are jealous of you, talk about you behind your back or tear you down, have backbiting ways or a skewed moral compass then I suggest you re-evaluate your circle. And if you are around these types of people their behavior could rub off on you, “Bad company ruins good moral” – 1 Corinthians 15:33. You can’t hang out with negative people and expect to have a positive/good life. Moreover it is important to develop godly friendships to have people who encourage and challenge you in your faith to mature and help you move closer to where God wants us to be. People you can pray with, study God’s word with, be honest in your struggles with and then pray again! “Friends should assist and strengthen each other by helping each other grow and improve” – Proverbs 27:17. “People simply do much better by working together. Two really are better than one” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-12. God desires friendships and relationships for us but He gives us a choice in who we engage with. I implore you, choose wisely! Birds of a feather, flock together.